If you are not just a Lightworker but a Twin Flame as well, this has been a trying time indeed.
The energies lately have been very challenging as many have noted.
The universe is pushing us hard to clear out the last remaining particles of what no longer serves us and to get us on mission.
I had to learn to balance myself and maintain that balance during stressful times, which would in turn help my Twin Flame keep his balance when he was going through things. It is similar to being on a high-wire, with someone beside you holding your hand so you do not fall off.
The universe has sent things to work on to help us heal and move towards Full Union, and as we went through them, things got easier to balance out, and we moved through them easier and quicker.
The universe has been turning up the heat and piling things on; for new beginnings and anything remaining from last year must go.
My TF and I are working on the same exact things at the exact same time now, so it is twice as hard. We can feel each other, as well as our own issues, and now the issues are much deeper, the ones we have been missing or avoiding the most. These hidden issues are the ones most deeply tied to self love, unconditional love and most of all; forgiveness and self worth.
Before we had to keep ourselves in balance while one or the other was going though things. Now we have to stay in balance within ourselves as well as together, healing our deepest fears and issues at the exact same time. Imagine both are on the high-wire now, walking toward each other, trying to maintain a balance as we go. Add to that all the distractions around us trying to make us lose our balance. These are the last steps toward Full Union.
The key is to remain focused on the now, our healing, and keeping our balance. Too much focus on the past, the future or what is simply a distraction and we may fall off.
We are almost at the middle point: full balance, and Full Union.
And much like that high-wire, slow and steady with absolute trust will get us there.
I am going to let you guys in on a SECRET that may help you in your Twin Flame Journey.
24 years ago my Twin Flame said something to me that I CHOSE to withdraw from.
We were BFF's and told each other everything, but I did not want to hear it...
so I RAN.
Not from him mind you, but from MYSELF.
It was simple constructive criticism, however what he said hurt my feelings and instead of dealing with it; I simply walked away.
I gave away my power.
I was not in charge of me or my feelings.
Instead of ACTING and facing what he said, and taking advantage of a GROWTH OPPORTUNITY,
I REACTED and abdicated my throne of power.
Why am I telling you this?
Because so many of YOU are in fact the RUNNER in your Twin Flame Journey and do not even realize it.
By expecting others to tiptoe around your very precious feelings, you are in fact inhibiting your own growth as a soul, thereby sabotaging your Twin Flame partnership.
Let me repeat that:
You are in fact inhibiting your own growth as a soul, thereby sabotaging your Twin Flame partnership!
We are here to grow, we are not here to stagnate and if you are trying to CONTROL what you HEAR from others including your Twin Flame, you are simply blocking your own growth as a soul and as a Twin Flame.
When you are not growing as a soul, you cannot move forward.
When you cannot move forward, your Union suffers.
Understand that we are Ambassadors of Unconditional Love, and part of that love begins with ourselves.
Part of this soul growth is learning to not blame others for our feelings and triggers.
Why? Because our reactions are our responsibility.
As much as everyone is trying to make their reactions someone else's job now days:
our Reactions to things is the one and only thing we have control over.
So why give away your power and ALLOW someone else control over you?
Realize that this is an active choice you are making.
Is that what you want; For someone else to control how you feel?
Do you want to live a life where others to have control over you and how you react?
Or are YOU in charge of YOU?
Understand that you will be triggered by others including your Twin Flame until you are not triggered anymore. This is to force you to face yourself, your pain, and heal your past so you BOTH can move forward...
You cannot control what others say or do, you can only control how you choose to react!
Stop giving away your power.
Stop Blocking your Union.
You are not a fragile being; you are a powerhouse of love and light, start acting like it.
This is what your "Twin Flame Runner" is waiting for.
This is why we are here
Take back the reins of your own life and LEAD the healing of your Twin Flame Journey.
Take back control of your life and lead your Twin Flame back to YOU, by doing the work.
Heal yourself, heal your Union.
What is the difference between your Karmic Partner and your Twin Flame?
The Karmic kills your self esteem,
like the death of a thousand cuts...
Your Twin Flame makes you face how you got those cuts,
and helps you heal them.
People use the label "narcissist" far too freely to describe who they think is their "Twin Flame" This "narcissist" is either selfish or in truth not giving the complainer what they want when they want it -which would make the complainer the the selfish one or Narcissist... see how this works?
Let me explain.
Your Narcissist Soul Mate is actually a Karmic Partner with two very important lessons for you:
Recognition and Discernment.
They prepare you for your Twin Flame in this way!
Most Karmic Partners happen to be Narcissists for a reason, to teach you to love yourself enough to walk away from what does not serve you. They teach you what you do not want. They teach you to put yourself and your mental, emotional and physical health FIRST. which is why they become abusive in some way shape or form:
To wake you up. They make you start to question why you put up with this behavior and set you up to never let this happen again.
If our partner is abusive we need to be self aware enough to call a spade a spade and walk away as this is not a healthy relationship.
What most describe in the groups is not a Narcissist, but actually someone simply being selfish, or the runner needing space and time to heal themselves.
So if you now realize your Twin Flame is not an abusive Narcissist, and you are complaining that they are not doing what you expect them to do(uh oh, do you have expectations?), what then?
Lets take a look in this mirror of love, shall we?
What most of the complainers and advocates of accepting poor and often abusive behavior often are truly saying is that the complainer is actually the problem.
Here is why:
You need to respect your partners boundaries and give them the space they need to heal themselves. It is important to realize that both partners often need time and space to heal on their own. When one goes silent both are triggered to heal things from their childhood and past.
So now the question becomes; why can you not give them the space and time they need to heal?
Are you needy, codependent, not letting go of or healing your control issues abandonment issues and rejection...?
Why are you not healing that within yourself?
Constant complaining about others is avoiding the vital self-work required to improve and grow as a person and move forward in life. Don't you want to grow and be the best person you can possibly be, not just for them; but for yourself?
You need to be 100% whole and non-codependent for Union with your Twin Flame.
Non-codependent means you do not NEED anyone to make you happy and whole because you already ARE happy and whole with yourself.
When you are happy and non codependent, independent and self sufficient, you will not constantly look for the flaws of others to make yourself feel better.
You also will not look for love, accepting mere crumbs of love, you will want the whole cake and will not accept less than you deserve. You will BE love and therefore simply attract it to you like a moth to a flame.
Love and Focus on yourself, stop complaining (you actually bring more of what you complain about but that is a whole other subject in itself).
Walk away from what no longer serves you, no matter who you think that person is.
Heal your expectations that others jump when you need them to or what you think your partnership should look like (you have templates there that need to be broken - yep another subject.)
Lose the need to control the outcome of your relationship; the how and when.
When your focus becomes improving you, instead of what the other is doing wrong, all the relationships in your life will change!
So you want a true partnership different than all the rest?
To have that partnership, you must BE that partner first...
Do not focus on the labels, and what the other does or does not do.
So be love. Choose love, Focus on love.
Your Twin Flame, people and their actions do not make you angry.
The wounds within from your childhood and your past that you have not healed make you angry.
Lack of accountability for your feelings makes you angry.
Lack of control of another or a situation makes you angry.
Feeling rejected makes you angry.
Feeling abandoned makes you angry.
Placing the blame for your anger on others makes you angry.
All are issues for you to heal from your past, not for others to tiptoe around.
All are designed for you to go within and heal your past.
When you are whole within, not much will make you angry,
Once you know yourself, what people say or do cannot define you.
The only thing you have control over is yourself and your reactions.
Faith is so very important for creating your future.
Faith and love in itself is creation.
For with love and faith all things are possible.
Soul mate connections show what you do /do not want in a relationship and point you to your truth.
Have you ever made a vase or bowl out of clay? You put a lump of clay on a wheel adding more clay here and removing from it what you do not want, shaping and reshaping until it is just right. Then you remove it, FIRE it up to CURE it and then paint it creating a beautiful masterpiece from what was once a simple lump of clay...
It is in the final stages of creation that any remaining lumps that were missed are found are removed to create the final masterpiece.
Much like the Twin Flame journey: we do not WANT to change until we MUST. The Twin Flame relationship is the final creation of our Lifetime Masterpiece in the Mastery of Self. That is where the beauty of this journey is.
Our Twin Flame is the one who makes us finally work on ourselves... looking inward instead of outward blaming others...shaping and removing what does not belong and where we are purified by FIRE to become our true authentic selves:
Beautiful, Strong, and Uniquely and Imperfectly Perfect.
To first understand why there is no False Twin, you need to understand what a Twin Flame is and what it is NOT.
I will use an analogy first to make this easier to comprehend using Fruit.
Oranges are not Apples.
Oranges have a hard outer skin that you must remove and peel with your hands and they are divided inside into sections with seeds in each of the sections.
Apples have an outer skin that is edible and the inside is all one piece with the seeds down the middle almost like a separate section for just the seeds.
There are many varieties of Oranges and many varieties of Apples, but you would never mistake one for the other, even though both are fruit.
If I were to say an Orange is an Apple you would disagree because they are nothing alike. But If I say a Macintosh and a Granny Smith is an Apple, you would agree.
Calling an Orange a False Apple would imply it is very much like an Apple, but as many have experienced; an Orange is nothing like an Apple.
Now, if you had never SEEN, tasted or EXPERIENCED an Orange, you might think perhaps an Orange could be an Apple.
You first would need to experience BOTH to know and be able to discern the difference.
To Imply they are the same does not make sense, now does it?
It is the same with Twin Flames and here is why there is NO False Twin Flame.
You have many soul mates; one Twin Flame.
A Twin Flame is ONE soul in TWO bodies. You will have the same energetic signature with the same values, wants, needs and desires but go about things very differently in a perfectly balanced manner. You will have a immensely calming unexplainable connection with this person and will love them unconditionally. It is a comfortable relationship, where you can be 100% yourself.
A Soul mate is a part of your soul family. They are separate souls. Some of your Soul Family are here to support you and some are here to teach you lessons.
One of the lessons you will have will be with a Karmic Partner who is a separate soul, which you have Prior to your Twin Flame.
You may have met your Twin Flame first but will not be with them at this point, and may not be aware of who or what they are just yet.
There will be an attraction with your Karmic Partner, but in the back of your mind if you are honest with yourself and pay attention to your intuition, something will be off. Your Guides may actually at some point tell you point blank what is wrong and to run (which happened to me two months into the relationship, but I did not listen.) You are to figure out what that is. This off behavior often becomes increasingly abusive behavior in some manner. A Karmic Partner is to show you what you DO NOT want. Karmic Partners are often Narcissists, who cannot and will not ever meet you halfway, will not try to improve themselves in any way because they feel they are never wrong. They will make everything your fault, with no accountability for their part in things. they will not look to improve themselves or the relationship.
You may experience a Catalyst next who will pick you up off the floor after your Karmic Partner Relationship nearly destroys you and your self esteem. They will make you see there is a possibility to have what you always wanted and confirm that the Karmic Partnership is not what you want. Something will still be off or missing. This relationship is generally short and sweet, and both may be fresh out of Karmic Partnerships,
Finally your Twin Flame will arrive and/or find you again and you will start to heal yourself. They will be ALL you have ever wanted and most importantly NEEDED. The emotions will be overwhelming and unlike any you have ever experienced before. Even though you will KNOW who they are you may not be ready ( you will later find you had other soul contracts to fulfill) or be terrified, due to all you have been through with your Karmic Partner. Your Twin Flame will love and accept your 100% for who you are. Twin Flames are loving and respectful. I repeat Twin Flames are LOVING and RESPECTFUL. They are not abusive because to hurt you is to hurt themselves. All the things your Karmic Partner said was wrong with you, your Twin Flame will love and appreciate. All the things you thought a true partnership should be WILL BE with your Twin Flame.
Your Twin Flame will make you feel Loved, Appreciated, Cherished and Fulfilled in ways you never have experienced with anyone else before.
Those who have not experienced all the above will be confused. They will even deny this is the process as they very much want to have a Twin Flame and they want one NOW and may say "all Twin Flame relationships are different."
Much like the orange and apple, you first would need to experience BOTH the Karmic Partnership and the Twin Flame relationship to know and be able to discern the difference.
To Imply they are the same does not make sense, now does it?
In my experience, all Twin Flame relationships stories of those in Full Union are more ALIKE than not. You need to experience many relationships to learn how to recognize, give, receive and finally to BE love. No two are alike.
As you progress from Soul mate, to Karmic Partner, Catalyst, to Twin Flame you will begin to truly understand the Twin Flame journey and why the other relationships are not the same and did not work out: they all were preparing you for this enduring love of a lifetime.
It is important to know the Twin Flame Journey is a LONG process... one of ENDURING, UNCONDITIONAL Love, but worth It.
If you do not feel this applies to you and that your journey is different, I have a suggestion:
WAIT AND SEE before you decide.
You have all the time in the world.
You will see why it is a long process, why most Twin Flames do not come into Full Union until after they are 40 and why there is no False Twin Flame.
Everyone here has a different role to help us all move forward. Some will make you face your truth by triggering you, some will pamper you, some will do both.
The fallacy is in expecting everyone to see/do the same thing.
You may not always like the answers you are given especially if you are looking for validation. Often in retrospect you will find that the truth of the situation that someone else saw, is a truth you simply were not ready for.
You may need to ask yourself "is there an element of truth here that I need to hear right now?
If so, what is it?" And do some honest digging.
Many right now are getting triggered and tested more and more often. The closer to Union the faster and more furious the triggers to clear out what you need to heal.
See these triggers are opportunities, not a need for alarm. In this opportunity it is important to be honest with yourself.
If you are triggered there is a reason: You need to GROW.
How do you know when you are triggered?
You are angry, offended, sad, you need to make the other person see your point of view and agree with it. These are all elements you need to heal within from your past, not for others to tiptoe around (which would be control).
Question everything about your reaction in order to grow:
Why am I upset?
Where have I felt this before?
Is this something I have experienced many times with many people?
Where does this come from in my childhood/past?
What do I need to change in order to move forward and not blame others for my reactions?
What do I need to heal?
This journey is meant to teach us recognition, truth and to release what no longer serves us. What no longer serves is usually FEAR/EGO based reactions to things. This fear manifests as rejection, abandonment, the need to be right, being easily offended/taking everything personally, etc.
Not all are on the same path, not all are Twin Flames, and not all need to agree on every tiny detail.
You cannot make a Zebra a Bear.
They are both animals, but they are not the same type of animal.
Not all lightworkers are Twin Flames for a reason, all have a different purpose to move this planet forward to evolve.
Not all parts of a car are the steering wheel, some must be tires, some must be the engine and some must be the gasoline. If you are a wheel accept that it is a very important job, equally as important as the engine, as an engine can go nowhere without wheels…
Accepting yourself for who you are and accepting differences in others is vitally important on this journey.
Expecting all to be and think exactly alike only holds you back.
Go WITHIN as that is where your TRUTH lies. Not in what others have to say.
If you are worried what others say or do, or need validation from others for your own truth, you are on the wrong path.
Once you KNOW your truth, nothing anyone says or does will bother you, and you will be triggered less and less.
When you reach this point, you will reach a whole new level of freedom: the freedom of letting go,
the freedom to be yourself and accept that others can also be themselves and not be wrong.
I had an interesting vision while walking today:
The love of my life and I are on a C-130 flying with the side door open. My Twin Flame used to jump off airplanes for a living, and for whatever reason is afraid to jump off THIS one. I get impatient and push him out of the plane and as he turns around in disbelief, he grabs onto a cord connecting the two of us and yanks me out of the plane after him.
I am annoyed and terrified and as we are falling towards the ground we start using the cord between us to pull ourselves together. He looks alternately pissed and amused. I am nervous and trying not to laugh or cry.
When I reach him we grab onto each other and embrace, relieved, then we start rolling over and over. As we are rolling and hurtling downward, wings sprout and start to emerge out of our backs, his are black, mine white.
As we continue to roll our wings are growing straighter and stronger. As they grow turbulence sets in and we start spinning and tumbling until we are tumbling away from but next to each other.
We start to use our wings to stop the tumbling, slow down, and start flying. We look at each other grinning and finally grab on to each other's arms and start to fly together, then we let go and stay together flying separately but together until we make it to the ground.
Seeing as this is a few Days prior to the Eclipse, there seem to be a lot of messages here!
This Spiritual Journey has been an amazing one back to myself, becoming whole and realizing who I was meant to be. This Blog will be about Reiki, Spirituality, Love, Twin Flames, becoming healthy balanced and whole and all that I have learned along the way. Channeled messages, spontaneous poems, scribbles and memes will be mixed in.