Why you do not LOOK for love, much less a Twin Flame.
What you do to yourself when you LOOK for love is create an opportunity for disappointment. The point of the Twin Flame Journey is a journey to SELF: finding yourself and becoming whole and healthy on your own.
You simply do not meet THE ONE by LOOKING.
Because you will continuously try to put a square peg into a round hole, trying to turn everyone you meet into your Twin Flame. This is not only unfair to them but to yourself, as you prevent yourself from GROWING which is the point of the Twin Flame Journey.
When you NEED another to complete you, you are not WHOLE, and do not love yourself. You will continue to have negative relationships until you learn your lesson: Self love.
Until you do your self-healing and release what no longer serves you, your fears will rule your life. What no longer serves you? What about YOU needs to change so your life will change for the better? What Self limiting beliefs need to go? What from your past do you need to let go of? What habits, jobs, thought processes, or relationships need to be purged?
Where else in your life have you had these emotions?
If you have NOT gone within and healed that which no longer serves you: Expectations, control issues, the need to know, despair, unworthiness feeling manipulated, blaming others and more; these things will control your life and affect your relationships. All of that needs to go, and only YOU can release them. If you TRULY want to be happy, you need to be able to be ALONE with YOURSELF, happy with yourself and with zero co-dependency.
Here are two more reasons to do your self-work and not LOOK for your Twin Flame.
Your Twin Flame and you are at the same vibrational frequency. As you do your self-work your Twin Flame will energetically do theirs in order to keep up, even if you are not speaking. So instead of preventing your Twin Flame Union, be chasing after them, you will draw them too you by your light, like a moth to a flame.
Twin Flames do not incarnate in every life time. Let me repeat that: Twin Flames do not incarnate in every lifetime. We have many lessons with many contracts with others to fulfill in order to progress on our soul journey. By obsessing over the person who may or may not be your twin, you may be missing out on important lessons that are required to graduate to the next level of your journey. Thus interfering with your own union!
Otherwise, sit on your merry-go-round instead of standing, and stop setting yourself up for the disappointment of repeating relationship cycles; you will be less dizzy. Or, better yet; jump off of that Merry-go-round, and get to work on yourself.
June 9, 2016
All of your life you had this idea of what it would be like when you found the ONE. Everyone has a different version of how the events will unfold, and no two are alike.
What is hard to do, is to BELIEVE that is the way it will happen as the years go by.
As your friends get married, and people come and go, you lose sight of that vision.
Many people go by how a friend tells them it will happen, but deep in your heart you KNOW the TRUTH.
The TRUTH is it will happen exactly as you always thought it would.
How do I know this?
I have seen it. I have PARTICIPATED in it and I have LIVED it.
I have always been a bit of a match maker. I have a knack for putting people together (just not myself…hmmm…but I digress…)
One of my friends and I are out and discussing dating. I am telling her she needs to get out of her house, meet people and the right cone will run arrive. “No, someone will introduce me to him.” “What? Don’t be so closed minded, maybe you will find him when you least expect it?” “I will. But I think we will be introduced.” I thought she was crazy.
Fast forward a year or so…I am out with a friend who I had just set up with HIS now wife. He brings a friend along. Hmmm….this guy is perfect for someone I know…so I arrange a meeting with him and my Friend. Neither knows it is a set up (which is the BEST way to match-make, as there is NO pressure.)
They meet, can’t stop talking to each other. As we are leaving she proclaims “OMG that guy is so perfect for me!” “I know, that is why I dragged you here.” Two weeks later she calls me laughing “Remember me telling you someone would introduce me to the guy for me? THIS is the guy, and YOU introduced us! “I was floored, she was right! Not only did she say what she wanted to happen I was the one who facilitated it!
I wanted the man for me to prove it beyond a shadow of a doubt. I felt he should be the one to initiate everything, and fight for it. Well, when they man for me finally showed up, he did JUST THAT. He even fought ME to prove it, and went so far as to say he would compete with anyone for me. Every time I told him I was not ready or to back off, he got more and more vulnerable, essentially cutting his heart out and handing it to me…now who can resist that? But it was exactly as I had always imagined.
Now the point of all this is:
How did you imagine finding your true love would go down? You hunting him to the ends of the earth? Or him declaring his undying love to you? If what you are involved in is not the way you envisioned, perhaps, you should take a step back: SLOW DOWN…and make sure you get the love of your life the way you always imagined…
February 14, 2016
Twin Flames are an example of an ENDURING love, one that transcends all others, all time, all space, all dimensions. This love endures all trials, all troubles, all obstacles and overcomes.
The reason is it is a journey to self love, unconditional love.
Your Twin Flame is you. You are them.
This means what you need they need, and what they need you need. So if you need space, and to not to be smothered in a relationship, you need to give them that. If you need reassurance when you are down, give them that, too.
Only YOU know what you want and need in a relationship, and for a relationship with your Twin Flame the first thing you need to make sure is in place is your relationship with yourself. Once you can give to yourself unconditional love, accept and give without expectation, you are ready for your Twin, because you are already whole without them.
If you stop and listen in the silence within your heart, you can FEEL what is going on with your TF and you will know what you need to do, and what not to do.
Others can tell you what to look for. What the signs are. With Twin Flames this is universal.
But only YOU know what you and your TF NEED.
The question is can you be HONEST with yourself about it?
Can you do what is needed and heal yourself FIRST, so you can ensure a smooth and harmonious union?
If you can, you will have that enduring love; in Divine timing of course..
July 16, 2016
80% of what you see in another is from something you need to heal from your past.
When you are triggered by another and realize this, the FIRST place we need to look is WITHIN.
Ask yourself "where have I felt this way before?"
Get a shovel and go DEEP into your past all the way to BIRTH and dig out the root of your fears!
This is the key to moving forward on your journey.
The only thing holding you back from your future is your past.
Dig it up, and let it go!
Become the finest version of yourself.
This Spiritual Journey has been an amazing one back to myself, becoming whole and realizing who I was meant to be. This Blog will be about Reiki, Spirituality, Love, Twin Flames, becoming healthy balanced and whole and all that I have learned along the way. Channeled messages, spontaneous poems, scribbles and memes will be mixed in.