Many people find it easy to forgive others. Some people don't find it so easy, but most struggle to finally figure out how to do so.
What many overlook is the one person you MOST need to forgive: YOURSELF.
Lack of forgiveness is to hold on to anger, to hold onto fear, to hold onto the past, all of which hold you back from your true purpose and true potential in life, and can also affect your health in negative ways.
So look into your past, what do you need to forgive yourself for and repeat this to yourself:
I forgive myself for the bad choices I have made in my life.
I forgive myself for not being perfect.
I forgive myself for judging myself and others.
I forgive myself for the times I have been week.
I forgive myself for not doing my best 100% of the time.
I forgive myself for lashing out in anger.
I forgive myself for my reactions.
I forgive myself for allowing things to happen as they did.
I forgive myself for my mistakes.
I forgive myself for letting others and myself down.
I forgive myself for not trusting my inner knowing.
I forgive myself for not putting myself first.
I forgive myself not staying on track.
I forgive myself for not reaching my goals, I can set new ones.
I forgive myself for being afraid.
I forgive myself for not doing the right thing.
I forgive myself for hurting others.
I forgive myself for procrastination.
I am sure there are more, feel free to list them or what you need to forgive yourself for... and set yourself free.
Twin Flames are the perfect partnership.
Just like like two people tied back to back:
-They are Equals
-Balance is key
-Each can see what the other cannot
-They always have each other's back
-If one says left and the other says right, Neither is wrong
-They are always in sync
-They have to work together to get anywhere
In order to truly love all and be love:
Stop hating those you imagine you disagree with.
Stop Judging others.
Stop attacking others.
Stop calling others names.
Stop assuming the worst about people.
Stop living in fear of what "could" or "may" happen.
Start Living in the NOW.
Start looking for the POSITIVE in people.
Start getting to know people; ASK instead of TELLING them who they are.
Start healing the parts of you that need healing.
Start to focus on YOU and what YOU can do better.
Focus on your gifts: How can you Help others?
I am going to let you guys in on a SECRET that may help you in your Twin Flame Journey.
24 years ago my Twin Flame said something to me that I CHOSE to withdraw from.
We were BFF's and told each other everything, but I did not want to hear it...
so I RAN.
Not from him mind you, but from MYSELF.
It was simple constructive criticism, however what he said hurt my feelings and instead of dealing with it; I simply walked away.
I gave away my power.
I was not in charge of me or my feelings.
Instead of ACTING and facing what he said, and taking advantage of a GROWTH OPPORTUNITY,
I REACTED and abdicated my throne of power.
Why am I telling you this?
Because so many of YOU are in fact the RUNNER in your Twin Flame Journey and do not even realize it.
By expecting others to tiptoe around your very precious feelings, you are in fact inhibiting your own growth as a soul, thereby sabotaging your Twin Flame partnership.
Let me repeat that:
You are in fact inhibiting your own growth as a soul, thereby sabotaging your Twin Flame partnership!
We are here to grow, we are not here to stagnate and if you are trying to CONTROL what you HEAR from others including your Twin Flame, you are simply blocking your own growth as a soul and as a Twin Flame.
When you are not growing as a soul, you cannot move forward.
When you cannot move forward, your Union suffers.
Understand that we are Ambassadors of Unconditional Love, and part of that love begins with ourselves.
Part of this soul growth is learning to not blame others for our feelings and triggers.
Why? Because our reactions are our responsibility.
As much as everyone is trying to make their reactions someone else's job now days:
our Reactions to things is the one and only thing we have control over.
So why give away your power and ALLOW someone else control over you?
Realize that this is an active choice you are making.
Is that what you want; For someone else to control how you feel?
Do you want to live a life where others to have control over you and how you react?
Or are YOU in charge of YOU?
Understand that you will be triggered by others including your Twin Flame until you are not triggered anymore. This is to force you to face yourself, your pain, and heal your past so you BOTH can move forward...
You cannot control what others say or do, you can only control how you choose to react!
Stop giving away your power.
Stop Blocking your Union.
You are not a fragile being; you are a powerhouse of love and light, start acting like it.
This is what your "Twin Flame Runner" is waiting for.
This is why we are here
Take back the reins of your own life and LEAD the healing of your Twin Flame Journey.
Take back control of your life and lead your Twin Flame back to YOU, by doing the work.
Heal yourself, heal your Union.
The opposite of Love is Fear.
If you are a lightworker, you are here to transmute fear and hate into love and teach others to make the most of what they have and to love all others.
In order to create a positive future full of LOVE and LIGHT, stop falling for the Media hype which is designed to amplify fear and hate and create division.
You are being tested now.
Can you LOVE your neighbor and your imaginary enemy?
Are you a beacon of love and light?
Or a purveyor of fear and hate?
What you fear and hate controls you.
The choice is up to you.
The true enemy is Hate and Fear,
The true enemy is WITHIN.
It is past time to stop fighting each other and Unite together as one.
Change is here, let's make it great!
Focus on your NOW, where you LIVE.
Make it peaceful, Make it fun.
Speak Love, not Fear.
What is the difference between your Karmic Partner and your Twin Flame?
The Karmic kills your self esteem,
like the death of a thousand cuts...
Your Twin Flame makes you face how you got those cuts,
and helps you heal them.
People use the label "narcissist" far too freely to describe who they think is their "Twin Flame" This "narcissist" is either selfish or in truth not giving the complainer what they want when they want it -which would make the complainer the the selfish one or Narcissist... see how this works?
Let me explain.
Your Narcissist Soul Mate is actually a Karmic Partner with two very important lessons for you:
Recognition and Discernment.
They prepare you for your Twin Flame in this way!
Most Karmic Partners happen to be Narcissists for a reason, to teach you to love yourself enough to walk away from what does not serve you. They teach you what you do not want. They teach you to put yourself and your mental, emotional and physical health FIRST. which is why they become abusive in some way shape or form:
To wake you up. They make you start to question why you put up with this behavior and set you up to never let this happen again.
If our partner is abusive we need to be self aware enough to call a spade a spade and walk away as this is not a healthy relationship.
What most describe in the groups is not a Narcissist, but actually someone simply being selfish, or the runner needing space and time to heal themselves.
So if you now realize your Twin Flame is not an abusive Narcissist, and you are complaining that they are not doing what you expect them to do(uh oh, do you have expectations?), what then?
Lets take a look in this mirror of love, shall we?
What most of the complainers and advocates of accepting poor and often abusive behavior often are truly saying is that the complainer is actually the problem.
Here is why:
You need to respect your partners boundaries and give them the space they need to heal themselves. It is important to realize that both partners often need time and space to heal on their own. When one goes silent both are triggered to heal things from their childhood and past.
So now the question becomes; why can you not give them the space and time they need to heal?
Are you needy, codependent, not letting go of or healing your control issues abandonment issues and rejection...?
Why are you not healing that within yourself?
Constant complaining about others is avoiding the vital self-work required to improve and grow as a person and move forward in life. Don't you want to grow and be the best person you can possibly be, not just for them; but for yourself?
You need to be 100% whole and non-codependent for Union with your Twin Flame.
Non-codependent means you do not NEED anyone to make you happy and whole because you already ARE happy and whole with yourself.
When you are happy and non codependent, independent and self sufficient, you will not constantly look for the flaws of others to make yourself feel better.
You also will not look for love, accepting mere crumbs of love, you will want the whole cake and will not accept less than you deserve. You will BE love and therefore simply attract it to you like a moth to a flame.
Love and Focus on yourself, stop complaining (you actually bring more of what you complain about but that is a whole other subject in itself).
Walk away from what no longer serves you, no matter who you think that person is.
Heal your expectations that others jump when you need them to or what you think your partnership should look like (you have templates there that need to be broken - yep another subject.)
Lose the need to control the outcome of your relationship; the how and when.
When your focus becomes improving you, instead of what the other is doing wrong, all the relationships in your life will change!
So you want a true partnership different than all the rest?
To have that partnership, you must BE that partner first...
Do not focus on the labels, and what the other does or does not do.
So be love. Choose love, Focus on love.
Your Twin Flame, people and their actions do not make you angry.
The wounds within from your childhood and your past that you have not healed make you angry.
Lack of accountability for your feelings makes you angry.
Lack of control of another or a situation makes you angry.
Feeling rejected makes you angry.
Feeling abandoned makes you angry.
Placing the blame for your anger on others makes you angry.
All are issues for you to heal from your past, not for others to tiptoe around.
All are designed for you to go within and heal your past.
When you are whole within, not much will make you angry,
Once you know yourself, what people say or do cannot define you.
The only thing you have control over is yourself and your reactions.
Love always wins.
When people speak, do they speak for the highest good of all others?
Or to feed their own ego?
It is important to learn to discern truth, love and light, especially if you are a Twin Flame, as we are here as ambassadors of Unconditional Love.
Be sure you surround yourself with those who are on the same path as you.
Who understand and see you as you truly are.
Learn to protect your energy and accept you cannot save everyone.
At some point people need to learn to love and save themselves.
Be love always.
It is the only truth.
This Spiritual Journey has been an amazing one back to myself, becoming whole and realizing who I was meant to be. This Blog will be about Reiki, Spirituality, Love, Twin Flames, becoming healthy balanced and whole and all that I have learned along the way. Channeled messages, spontaneous poems, scribbles and memes will be mixed in.