How the Mirror Effect works in Relationships

One of the biggest questions I get about Twin Flames, Soul Mates and relationships in general is how the “Mirror Effect” works.
Imagine yourself standing face to face with another person. 
 When they hold a mirror up to you, what do you see? 
 You see YOURSELF. You do not see them. You see your flaws staring back at you: A blemish, wrinkles, a gray hair, the spot of Salsa on the collar of your shirt. When applied to a relationship the Mirror simply reflects back to you what you need to address about YOURSELF: your fears, your past, your failures…
What you do not see is THEM, and what THEY need to work on. Why? Because It is none of your business.
I repeat: What the other person needs to work on is none of your business!
Many think the mirror is for them to show their partner what is wrong with them.
Nothing could be further from the truth. This is placing blame upon the other and projecting YOUR issues onto them so your do not have to be accountable for your reaction. Please understand you only have control over yourself and your reactions, you have no control over what others think, say or do. If your focus is on what another is or is not doing, you are creating your own misery by trying to control them and the outcome of your relationship. You need to become accountable for YOURSELF, control yourself and your reaction.
Now, let's take that “Mirror Effect” one step further, and this is what is vitally important in relationships:
What is that mirror reflecting back to you? Abandonment? Rejection? Jealousy? Lack of Self Worth? Not being Good Enough? Control? Betrayal? The need to KNOW? 
Whatever it is, it is for YOU to heal. It is not anyone else’s problem.
Go into your past, all the way through childhood back to birth.  Where have you felt this way before? THAT is where your focus needs to be. Dig for every event and instance tied to this emotion and release it. It does not serve you anymore, except to hold you back from being your true self. It prevents you from having loving fulfilling relationships. All these events that no longer serves you is lurking in your past for you to dig up and release.
Once you do this work, you will find your mind calms, your relationships with others will heal. You will not care what others think or be triggered by what they say, do or not do any longer. You will be able to love yourself, and because of this be able to love and accept others for who they are.
You will also not mind looking into that mirror anymore…
​you might actually like what you see: 
 UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
-Terri Wilson-
October 28, 2016 
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