Hate is hate, people.
If you hate another race or religion you are a Racist.
We are all the same on the inside, and we are all ONE RACE the HUMAN RACE.
Look at your own family. Not all are mechanics, not all are veterinarians, not all are gardeners, not all are doctors, but you love each other just the same. You learn to work through your differences, and accept each other for who they are.
Learn to accept and celebrate differences with everyone and TALK /LISTEN to what others have to say. Ask questions, do not TELL someone what they think. If you cannot or will not talk/work it out YOU are the problem.
Less than 5% hate other races.
Extreme Muslims? Less than 5%, New Black Panthers? Less than 5%, KKK, less than 5% Nazi's less than 5%. Christian Elite's less than 5%.
These Extremists/Racists are less than 5% of the population, no one is better than another, so if you think you are, YOU are the problem.
For those who are not aware Hate is a mask for FEAR, and FEAR is the opposite of LOVE.
That which you fear CONTROLS you. You need to control yourself and your reactions not everyone and everything around you.
Step into your HEART, discover why you fear another and HEAL that.
If you need help with this ask any Energy Healer and they will help you to over come this.
If you are easily triggered and project your fears/feelings/unhealed heart upon others, that is a message from your soul of what you need to focus on and release in order to move forward in your life.
Do you find your thoughts continuously going back to the same things over and over? Are you constantly focused upon how wrong someone is, tallying up all the perceived wrongs others have done to you in your life? This scoreboard is the unhealthy scoreboard of your self inflicted blocks.
The universe will continue to send people to trigger you until you are no longer triggered. The only thing you can control in your life is your reactions.
So the Question now becomes are you coming from a place of LOVE or FEAR to deal with this?
Are you gong to go within and heal yourself?
Or will you continue to blame others for your reactions and your self inflicted pain?
The only way out is IN and UP.
Go within and heal your past, heal your past so you are not toxic to others.
Raise your vibrations by healing yourself. Be honest with yourself.
The world is a beautiful place if you simply allow it to be.
Ever notice on an airplane prior to takeoff the steward/stewardess will say "in the event of an emergency the air masks will drop, put the oxygen mask on yourself FIRST, before helping your children and others."
There is a reason for this. You cannot help others if you do not help yourself first.
You also cannot love others if you do not love yourself first.
The hardest part of the Twin Flame journey is to keep moving our focus back to ourselves and our healing and off of our Partner.
Our number one responsibility is to ourselves, becoming whole, complete and non codependent. We must dig deep, heal and help ourselves first, become whole, put that focus back onto ourselves and stop avoiding our own healing.
Twin Flames are healers and our first instinct is to help others....but we have to learn to put ourselves first. If we do not, we cannot fully step into our mission and help others.
So, where is your focus? Are you healing yourself? Are you becoming whole, and independent?
If not, put that oxygen mask of love back where it belongs, on yourself!
When My Twin Flame found me again, we had been separated for 25 years, and not been in contact for 19 years...We had always looked for each other, but for some reason could not find each other. This is what happened when he finally found me...
We met when I worked in a men’s store while I was in college, he was in the Army. As soon as we saw each other, we stopped and stared at each other for a few minutes before I started helping him. My Coworkers later asked what that was about. I had no idea, but it felt like we knew each other, and he was adorable and funny, so we became been best friends and inseparable. My friends and coworkers always questioned me about him. We would go dancing all night long coming home soaking wet, having won dirty dance contests, slow dancing, hanging out and doing everything and nothing together, but he never once tried to kiss me, and had ample opportunity. I would lament about my boyfriends, we would discuss life and things, he was a perfect gentleman. We would call his mother and talk to her often, she had us take a personality test for some reason and we came out almost exactly alike. She said she had never seen this before and we laughed, it was “because we are best friends!” So of course we were alike!
He eventually moved away after getting out of the Army, and we wrote and called each other. I missed him immensely but thought nothing of it. At one point in our friendship I agreed to be “best man” for his wedding, even though I was devastated he was getting married, which at that time I didn’t completely understand. I at one point wished he was a girl so he could be my maid of honor when I got married and hoped we would go to each other's weddings. After reading one if his letters I all the sudden felt completely unworthy of him. He seemed so much more spiritual than I, so amazingly sweet and awesome, he was so far away, and I was a Social Butterfly who didn't go to church and drank too much, so I started to write back less often.
We eventually lost touch, but I always wondered how and where he was and over the years would try to locate him several times.
Fast forward to 3 years ago. I was going through a very painful divorce which I would later learn was a Karmic Partnership. I was looking for answers and trying to fix myself with Massages, Hypnotism, Spider Vein Removal, Reiki, you name it, I was trying it!
I even met someone while going through my divorce and we seemed to be designed to heal each other. But as he was also going through a divorce from an abusive person, we eventually drifted apart. He was what you would term a Catalyst, he was amazing and a 180 degree opposite of my ex, but not quite a 100% match, but now I was utterly on my own.
One day I open up Facebook and there is a message from my long lost friend from 25 years prior! He asked if I remembered him (REALLY???) hopes he was somewhat memorable and states I was the one who got away (OMG ?!what!?) As we catch up he divulges that he had loved me, but was afraid I would reject him, and he preferred to have me as a friend than nothing at all, so never told me about it. Add to that he had no job when he got out of the Army and no where to stay. I informed him I had loved him as well. I was so overjoyed to hear from him and shocked that my former BFF was saying I was the one that got away. We both told each other that we had looked for each other for years to no avail.
He was currently married, alluded not happily, and I told him about my impending divorce, that I was a complete mess and he said he wanted to be there for me and help me heal, but then he disappeared.…
My divorce was final a few months later. I moved out and was purging things to downsize, and ran across an old letter from my BFF. The letter said he was taking a break from dating, because he compared everyone to me for some reason…asked when I was going to come and see him…and as I read it, it dawned on me, he HAD been in love with me. How had I missed that? Is this why he found me again? So I messaged him that I found the letter and he asked if he could call and would I read it to him. He asked if I remembered his voice (odd question??) to which I responded “how do you forget someone’s voice? Of course I do!"
When he called and I heard his voice, I felt really weird. My Heart reacted and my head started feeling fuzzy, but I brushed it off. We both exclaimed “OMG I LOVE your voice!“ to each other, then I read him the letter. He was amazed I still had it after all these years.
He then said he had a story to tell me, so we planned a call for the next day so he could tell it to me, he said it was long and would take a while.
When he called I felt weird again. My heart and head felt funny, so odd. I poured myself a glass of wine and settled into bed as he told me his story. He reminded me of the engagement I promised to be his best man for, told me why they never married. We discussed other relationships each had over the years since and his engagement to his first wife.
He then told me that prior to her and for the subsequent years he had dreams every night of a woman and himself. Every single night in these dreams he and this woman did the mundane things of life; laundry, making love, walking, sitting on a porch, sharing dinner. He never saw this woman’s face, but every night the dreams would return and he started feeling he was in a relationship with this woman to the point if he dated anyone he felt as if he was cheating on the woman in his dreams. He knew everything about her: her heart, her soul, everything, except for her face. He never told anyone about the dreams, and started thinking he might be crazy.
One day he is working in the bar of a hotel and a couple comes in. They were very loving and affectionate with each other. So much so, that over the course of the next 3 days his curiosity was piqued. They were always touching each other, feeding each other, looking at each other with a love he had never witnessed before. On the 3rd day they announce they will be leaving, and he asks if he can buy them lunch as he had enjoyed serving them and had some questions for them, as he was newly engaged and had always wanted a love like they had.
At this point the woman looks at her husband “I TOLD you it was him!” The husband rolls his eyes “yes, I see, you were right” and chuckles. As he looks at them quizzically, she states “we have been looking for you.” Now he is really curious. Who were they, and why were they looking for him? She then asks “are you still having the dreams?” He was floored. How did she know about that? He had never told a soul! She then informs him she had been having dreams about him having the dreams and they set out to find him.
She states he knows person in the dream, and he says no, he had never seen the woman’s face. She reiterates, “you have met this person already.” At this point an image flashes before his eyes but he brushes it away. He and the couple become friends, and over the years, they discuss how the couple’s relationship came about, and they discuss his future without too much detail, but that he will make many mistakes and have big lessons to learn.
They also make him promise that when he sees the face of the woman in his dreams, he has to tell her about the dreams.
He then gets married, divorced and married again, and through it all the dreams continue.
Now as an aside: the whole time he is telling this story, my BFF who is never at a loss for words is having a hard time; stuttering and stumbling as he tells me this story. Why he was having such a hard time, telling me this story? I could tell he was nervous, it was so not like him at all!
He continues: A few years ago the couple died within 6 months of each other. He said they affected many people’s lives and were well loved. They were mentors to a great many people. I start to get chills. He said so many people went to their funeral it was amazing.
In the fall of 2013 he has a dream. He is on a beach alone. The couple who had befriended and him and died appear out of nowhere and say “it is time, come with us.” He asks where they are going and follows them. They stop and he can see the woman he had been dreaming of all those years at the end of some breakers with her back to them. He recognizes her instantly. He turns around to the couple but they had disappeared.
He starts calling to the woman, but she cannot hear him; the waves are too loud. So he walks out on the breakers trying to get her attention. She still doesn’t hear him. Finally he gets to within 20 feet of her she hears him and as she turns around says “it is about time!”
At this point I had begun crying, I already knew what he was about to say.
iIs voice was full of emotion and he says:
“Terri, it was you at the end of the breakers.
YOU are the woman I had dreamed about over half my life!”
I was dumbfounded.
It was the most amazing and beautiful story I had ever heard, it was coming from the only man I had ever truly trusted and felt safe with: my best friend from so long ago...
And this is where our story begins...
Many are surprised to hear I was the Runner in my TF relationship, as I have grown and mostly moved beyond that aspect in my Twin Flame Journey.
When my TF found me again after 19 years of searching for each other after losing touch, he made it clear he wanted to take our relationship beyond the BFF's we were before to the next level. Fresh out of a divorce from a Karmic Partner as well as a Catalyst relationship, I was not ready to hear what he had to say.
I was confused, and terrified of all the feelings swirling around in my head. My Ego was in Full retreat mode. I had proclaimed to my friends and him that I wanted 2 years to "fix myself" to "get back to me" and here was the one and only person I ever trusted in my life showing up out of the blue proclaiming he loved me unconditionally including my flaws ("who SAYS that, anyway???") and wanted to help me heal, reminding me who I was, that there was nothing wrong with me and that we were destined and designed for each other.
I cried the whole time he spoke. In fact I cried almost every time we spoke. Actually, he did most of the talking (a Gemini, go figure) and is the one person I know more talkative than myself. No one had ever said such lovely things to me, and all my emotions and fears from the past came rushing back up to the surface battling for attention.
How could he say these things when he had not seen me in 25 years and we had not communicated in 19 years? How was that even possible or realistic? What if he changed his mind after we saw each other? What if I rejected him and hurt him, as I had a tendency to do when seeing any man from my past after a few years? He was the last person I wanted to hurt-much less lose AGAIN. How can we have these feelings when we had not seen each other for years? It made no logical sense to me!
He was persistent, pushy even. In truth he pursued me as I had always dreamed a man would, but the timing? UGH! I literally told him to "back off! I am not ready for this shit!" To which he responded "I will back off but I WILL NOT back away!"
I was dumbfounded.
Again; who says this stuff??? This man was serious!
He finally stepped back, realizing I needed time to process all this, as well as to rebuild our relationship which had been untouched for 19 years.
He switched from pushy, to lovingly patient and vulnerable.
He figuratively cut his heart out of his chest and handed it over to me, saying he loved me and did not need for me to say it back and in fact did not need for me to reciprocate it either, that he had loved me over half his life and would love me no matter what.
I was completely shocked.
Once again: Who does this???? Who says things like that???
Twin Flames say and do these things.
Why? Twin Flames are Unconditional Love.
TRUE LOVE has no boundaries, no conditions, no restraints and no need to be returned, no need to control and no expectations.
So for those who are chasing and trying to force that connection to the one you think is your Twin Flame I have some advice from a Twin Flame Runner:
Let the other heal, let them breathe, let them figure it out, and build a foundation of trust, patience and UNCONDITIONAL love. It is in this way you prove to them you will always be there and that this is the Enduring Divine Partnership that you know it is.
If it is meant to be, it will happen... in Divine timing of course.
After all, forever is a very very long time....
Trust the Universe, Trust your heart, and Most of all: trust in that Divine Partnership of forever.
I am going to shoot straight as that is what you need from a healer, and that is why I am here to help all move FORWARD. I feel this is a message many need to hear right now.
Signs do not tell you who your Twin Flame is, nor does a psychic reader, tea leaves or tarot cards.
You will recognize there is something VERY different about this person, and you will have the heart pull (NOT heart palpitations or flutters which are Heart Chakra Expansion and a natural part of the Ascension process), you will FEEL IT, so stop looking!
If you have to ask if someone is your TF then they are NOT. This is the one relationship you will not need anyone's opinion or approval on because you will KNOW and it will be 100% MUTUAL.
IF you are a TF and MOST are NOT (which does not mean you cannot learn from the TF Love and emulate it in a relationship within yourself), it will be different than any relationship you have ever had, Why? Because it is not a relationship; it is a PARTNERSHIP of EQUALS.
You will have misunderstandings, triggers and things to heal of course. You will need silence and separation to heal things alone at times. Take advantage of these gifts of time and space from Source, go within and HEAL what comes up for healing. Learn to be happy alone, self-introspective and dig into your past. Lose the need for labels and someone to "complete" you and focus on SELF GROWTH (ie; self-worth).
Look for the lessons in relationships without attachment and you will begin to see what the relationship truly is, move forward and become the whole, independent,non-codependent beacon of love and light you were meant to be.
Will it be painful? Yes. Difficult? Absolutely. But 100% worth it in the long run.
So many of you have come so far on this journey, and the growth is beautiful to see!
Be grateful for those who help us become the best version of ourselves.
Use your triggers to catapult you on your healing path. For those already doing so, keep up the good work!
For those who feel stuck:
Stay positive, think of it as taking a rest to prepare for the next step forward. Take the time to analyze what needs to change within you to move to the next level.
Please keep in mind:
Are your thoughts positive or negative? Are you complaining, seeking validation or do you want the truth so you can move forward? Are you ACTING or REACTING? If you are reacting, you are triggered.
Is what you see positive or negative? If it is negative, it most often comes from your FEARS. What fears are being triggered to be addressed?
Many people in hindsight eventually see what they were not able to before because they were not ready. So be open to learning and hearing what others have to say. You can safely assume if everyone else sees things one way and you do not, you may be missing something and need to change your perspective. Don't fight it, go with the flow, and move forward.
Healing your triggers will not only help with your Union, but with your LIFE.
What you project without is what you see within, so make sure it is love.
All in this life is a choice. Choose love and it will choose you.
Keep going within, heal your past and continue to move forward, you are doing GREAT!
All are teachers and all are students and "A rising tide lifts all boats."
June 4, 2017
Words have power. Thoughts have power. Intention has power.
All are energy. Energy is for creating, and used to manifest what we want.
We all must learn to learn to think and speak with intention in order to manifest what we want.
If you understand this, you can also understand that what you think is important, even if and especially if you are just saying it to yourself.
So, before you speak, type, and think; consider what you are putting out to the universe, as that is what you will manifest. The universe does not understand "not" or "do not."
If you "want a better job" say precisely that. Do not say "I do not want another horrible job" as that is exactly what you will get!
If you want a true and everlasting love, SAY IT! Would anyone in their right mind say they want a false love? Of course not.
The words you use are very important, so pay close attention to them.
Do you want a magical life full of love and adventure? Yes? Say it, think it, and choose your words wisely!
May 30, 2017
The energies of late have had many Twin Flame's heads spinning.
Feeling up, down, tired, bursts of energy, emotional one day, disconnected from their Twin Flame the next day,
But now... Do you feel it?
When Twin Flames first met, things went from "this is amazing!" to "what the hell just happened?"
The universe brought you together early so you could learn to balance yourself, your emotions, your lives. Both became head over heels and far to codependent on their Twin Flame, with each taking turns running and chasing as all their childhood and relationship issues came up for clearing, so Separation was initiated.
If you are the Divine Feminine, you have been working on your balance for years. Clearing what no longer serves with monthly tests to throw you off balance and see how quickly you bounce back to maintain that balance.
Once you got it under control, it was the Divine Masculine's turn.
They have been healing the past few months and whether you have been aware or not, you gave them the cheat sheet energetically, and they have been getting their life and emotions into balance.
So no: do you feel the balancing between your Twin Flame and yourself?
Do you feel calm, relaxed...easy... because you are now heading in the same direction?
There are a few more tests ahead, but as you are coming into alignment for Union with your Twin Flame, you will feel them around you and within you more easily with less focus on what the other is doing and more on your own lives, as it should be.
Neither dependent upon the other. Each whole within themselves, with all the edges rounded out.
This is how a perfectly balanced partnership is.
And it feels Perfect. Divine. Truly Balanced.
May 17, 2017
One of the biggest questions I get about Twin Flames, Soul Mates and relationships in general is how the “Mirror Effect” works.
Imagine yourself standing face to face with another person.
When they hold a mirror up to you, what do you see?
You see YOURSELF. You do not see them. You see your flaws staring back at you: A blemish, wrinkles, a gray hair, the spot of Salsa on the collar of your shirt. When applied to a relationship the Mirror simply reflects back to you what you need to address about YOURSELF: your fears, your past, your failures…
What you do not see is THEM, and what THEY need to work on. Why? Because It is none of your business.
I repeat: What the other person needs to work on is none of your business!
Many think the mirror is for them to show their partner what is wrong with them.
Nothing could be further from the truth. This is placing blame upon the other and projecting YOUR issues onto them so your do not have to be accountable for your reaction. Please understand you only have control over yourself and your reactions, you have no control over what others think, say or do. If your focus is on what another is or is not doing, you are creating your own misery by trying to control them and the outcome of your relationship. You need to become accountable for YOURSELF, control yourself and your reaction.
Now, let's take that “Mirror Effect” one step further, and this is what is vitally important in relationships:
What is that mirror reflecting back to you? Abandonment? Rejection? Jealousy? Lack of Self Worth? Not being Good Enough? Control? Betrayal? The need to KNOW?
Whatever it is, it is for YOU to heal. It is not anyone else’s problem.
Go into your past, all the way through childhood back to birth. Where have you felt this way before? THAT is where your focus needs to be. Dig for every event and instance tied to this emotion and release it. It does not serve you anymore, except to hold you back from being your true self. It prevents you from having loving fulfilling relationships. All these events that no longer serves you is lurking in your past for you to dig up and release.
Once you do this work, you will find your mind calms, your relationships with others will heal. You will not care what others think or be triggered by what they say, do or not do any longer. You will be able to love yourself, and because of this be able to love and accept others for who they are.
You will also not mind looking into that mirror anymore…
you might actually like what you see:
October 28, 2016
People always ask how to know if someone is your Twin Flame. Perhaps part of my story will help.
Before I ever heard of Twin Flames, I met a guy.
He seemed fun, and interesting and sweet. Before you know it he is calling me 24-7. At one point he was telling me he missed me and being so sugary sweet after I was gone for 4 days, and a thought popped into my head: “this guy is an abuser and will turn around 180 degrees the other way. RUN” I of course, did NOT, because the thought seemed crazy.
He was always great until he was drinking, then things would get ugly. He had a violent temper. He would say the most horrible things imaginable, leaving me in a hysterical mess. The next day he was sweet again and apologized. It was a cycle that continued for years. Lots of fights, name calling etc. I never had a relationship like this, it was a total roller coaster. I felt we had a strong connection, but something was always a little bit off, I never truly trusted him 100%, but I thought he was my soul mate, even though at times it was the worst relationship I had ever been in. He was the most disrespectful man I had ever known but I loved him. He was never mean to me in front of anyone except for this kids. To everyone we were Barbie and Ken. We looked like brother and sister and everyone said we seemed to have been together for ever.
The abusive treatment progressed over 12 years until I was completely beat down and stripped of my self worth. I went from being “the mayor” of my town, to feeling I could not do or say anything right.
All through this relationship it went from awesome to horrible, awesome to horrible and in the end the awesome was non-existent. He was a Narcissist and I am an Empath, the worst possible combination for a relationship. I knew why he was the way he was and wanted to help him and show him he was worthy of great love. The problem was he was so damaged he could not accept it. Everything was my fault, I was always wrong, everything I said was stupid, “where do you get this stuff?”
He was my Karmic Partner. Sent to teach me what I did not want, and so many other valuable lessons.
My friends had me make a list of 100 things I wanted in my next relationship. It was everything I had always wanted and never had. It really made me think about what I truly needed not just wanted. 100 characteristics is a LONG, THOROUGH list! I put it away and forgot about it.
As I was going through my divorce, I met a guy who was amazing. He was everything my ex was not, said he wanted to “make up for the last 12 years of my life.” He was fun, I told him I thought we were supposed to heal each other, and we did. He had been in a similar relationship, and we gave each other back our sexuality, and made each other feel better, but neither of us were ready and something was not 100% in this relationship either. He, like myself was still reeling from his past relationship, still focused on all the things wrong with her, and I was the same. We eventually stopped seeing each other. My feelings were so strong, at one point I asked God if this was not the guy for me to PLEASE help me to get over him. Within 2 weeks I was for the most part but still thought I loved him.
He was my Catalyst. He showed me how I deserved to be treated; with respect, and that I could have a fun loving relationship, with someone who actually liked sex… and that would appreciate me.
I went to see a psychic. She said someone from far away I had not heard from in a very long time was going to appear. I would go see them or they would come see me and I would be VERY glad that I did, and she smiled in a very mysterious way. Like she knew some big secret. I could not imagine who this could be. In two months I got my answer.
A guy I knew 25 years before found me on FB. We had been best friends when I was in college and lost contact. I had searched for him for YEARS. At one point he had asked me to be his best man, and at another point I had wished he was a girl so he could be my maid of honor(neither happened, but I wrote in a journal I hoped we could one day go to each other’s weddings.) I was so excited, and happy! And OMG he lived 3000 miles away! He said I was the one who got away, wanted to see me, but I was still going through my divorce, so he backed off. I found a letter from him after my divorce was final, and he asked me to read it to him. He wanted to call me. As soon as I heard his voice my heart reacted. It felt weird, like someone was pulling on it tugging it, trying to take it right out of my chest. And my head felt weird and tingly, so I mentioned it to him, he said he felt the same. It was odd! Add to that all these feelings from the past came flooding back from before, I always had a crush on him and he was saying the same. When I looked up the heart pull and fuzzy head I discovered an article about Twin Flame’s, it made sense, and he was saying all the things described as well. I sent it to him and he agreed, it made sense, but he did not want to label it.
He literally IS me. There is more, but that is not the point of this article.
Our relationship has always been fun, silly loving, and conspiratorial: Best Friends. Always 100% trust, always respectful (he never even tried to kiss me way back when he was too chicken and so was I). Now that we were reconnected he wanted to take it to the next level. what if I rejected him and hurt his feelings? What If he rejected me? What if we were crazy? How could I feel like this for a guy I had not seen in 25 years? It boggled my mind! I was excited, but terrified. (fears!)
It has been almost 3 years in the making. We are in Union, and I have never felt more cherished and loved in my life. He said he wants to protect my heart, he never wants to be like all the other men in my life, that he loved me over half of his life. Not once has either of us been mean or disrespectful to each other. We agree that this relationship is “bigger than the both of us” and that it transcends all others. We have a telepathy and connection we NEVER had with anyone else and want what is best for each other. We always blame ourselves first if there is any misunderstanding (there are VERY few) and NEVER want to hurt the other. We are connected in ALL ways: mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, sexually. We have the partnership we both have always dreamed of, 100% EQUAL and RECIPROCAL.
While all TF stories are different, you will find the majority contain the same elements; a Karmic partner (KP), a Catalyst and a Twin Flame (TF). The first two and everyone before them literally sets you up for your TF.
In both of my prior relationships I thought they could have been THE ONE, but there was something missing. I did know it, but society said there was no perfect relationship. They were not ME. They did not like or think like I did, though the Catalyst was close.
Had I known of TF’s first, I probably would have done the same as many do: try to make the KP or Catalyst my TF; try to fit a square peg into a round whole. But I hope I would have been smart enough to apply the lessons of others to my own situation. I certainly hope this will help many of you. If he/she is not 100% what you want, they are NOT your Twin flame. You must trust that. Most of all trust your HEART, that is the key that opens the heart to love...
You will have ZERO doubt they are THE ONE.
You will however have doubt to heal : “Am I worthy?’
YES you ARE, beyond a shadow of a doubt!
December 21, 2016
We often hear people say they want to find their “better half” or the one who “completes me” “the other half of me", etc….
The problem with this thought process is it assumes you are not enough without this other person, and that in order to be happy you must be with someone else. So a conundrum is created in our minds, and the quest for true love begins with a fallacy.
The truth of the matter is you do not need anyone else to be happy, and you do not need someone to complete you. You just THINK you do.
The reality is you must become whole yourself. (That is right, ON YOUR OWN!)
Many will say “OH but I AM whole myself, I don’t need anyone!!”
So why are you still with that person who does not fulfill you? Are you with someone who is “almost what you want?” or not even close, because you are “trying to make it work?”
Hmmmm, maybe you tell yourself, but why?
This is why: you have SETTLED and do not feel worthy of love.
You have decided the person you see in your mind as perfect for you, the one you have dreamed of all your life, the ideal love you imagined does not exist. All the people you dated before who were not close to what you wanted, failed relationships and marriages have convinced you this person does not exist. Or your friends and family have told you’re your expectations are completely unrealistic. And you bought into THE BIG LIE: that you can never truly be happy, and “kind of” happy or mediocre relationship is OK, and better than being alone.
And now you are coasting.
You are on auto-pilot.
Your relationship is like two roommates living together. No passion, no fun, no excitement or inspiration, lack of motivation, just kind of going through the motions, often leading very separate lives, with one or both not really in a hurry to get home. You tell yourself this is OK because your friends are in the same boat, so It MUST be ok. Or WORSE, they are in an abusive relationship, and at least you are not living THAT life, so it HAS to be ok. Your parents and grandparents did it. Everyone does it. There is no such thing as the perfect relationship.
This is where you are wrong. This is THE BIG LIE.
You were meant for MORE, and you do not have to settle.
What many do not realize is there IS a perfect person for you out there. “No one is perfect” you say. Ah but that is not what I said, what I said was this person would be “PERFECT FOR YOU.”
This person is that blueprint of your mind’s eye. The man or woman of your dreams: “The ONE.”
You have seen it.
You know a couple that is always playful and silly with each other. They finish each others’ sentences. When they look at each other it makes you blush. In fact they are ALWAYS looking at each other. They are always touching each other, affectionate, respectful, and seem so do everything together. They often look alike, or are built the same or act alike. In fact, they think so alike you think they were just MADE for each other.
That is because they ARE.
You can have it too, you need to stop lying to yourself, and stop settling.
Stop the cycle of settling for less than you deserve.
How do do this?
Go within and start healing the parts of your past that feel you do not deserve to be fulfilled and happy. Heal your need to have someone to validate that you are lovable.
Heal the BIG LIE.
May 3, 2017
You thought you know what love was,
and that you loved all those people in your life;
and you believed it was OK to settle.
They were mostly what you wanted.
No one seemed a perfect fit.
Except for that ONE person, you knew...
Besides, everyone you knew was with someone
who was not perfect for them,
so surely your standards were unrealistic?
Then you find the ONE who is EVERYTHING you were told did not exist, and you realize you never truly knew what TRUE love was.
And your life is changed forever.
Because now you know the TRUTH: You were not crazy, you were not unrealistic, your standards were not too high.
You were right all along.
What you wanted DOES exist.
You are SUPPOSED to have the love you always wanted:
the other half of your soul.
You were just supposed to trust and listen to your heart...
80% of what you see in another is from something you need to heal from your past.
When you are triggered by another and realize this, the FIRST place we need to look is WITHIN.
Ask yourself "where have I felt this way before?"
Get a shovel and go DEEP into your past all the way to BIRTH and dig out the root of your fears!
This is the key to moving forward on your journey.
The only thing holding you back from your future is your past.
Dig it up, and let it go!
Become the finest version of yourself.
This Spiritual Journey has been an amazing one back to myself, becoming whole and realizing who I was meant to be. This Blog will be about Reiki, Spirituality, Love, Twin Flames, becoming healthy balanced and whole and all that I have learned along the way. Channeled messages, spontaneous poems, scribbles and memes will be mixed in.